Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate your comment.

And as for this:

‘I guess the problem is that for some of us, deciding what to wear is a daily battle that is integrated with our self-esteem and expectations of whether we’ll be heard that day or not.’

Oh no. OH NO!!! Your self-esteem should be reflected by who you are as a person- and shouldn’t have one iota to do with what you are wearing. The most beautiful people that I know, and am fortunate to call my friends, are not the best dressed. The most effective people that I know, are not the best dressed… but they have the finest character, the most guts, and they are loyal and persistent beyond belief in the face of tremendous difficulty.

Beauty has little to do with external appearance in my book.

I guess the problem is that for some of us, deciding what to wear is a daily battle that is integrated with our self-esteem and expectations of whether we’ll be heard that day or not.

But since no one has a solution, I have to agree, I’m tired of all the blogging about outfits and shoes.

I am glad to say I found this post via Abel Pharmboy’s blogging about it, and I like the discussion it’s fueling about how enlightened men need to do their part to help. So keep up the good work!

I had a look- what a great post! I really enjoyed reading it.

On the subject of dresses and fighting, you might be interested in popping over to my blog and look at a nice picture of a group of women. It took a while (busy bee with marking) but hope you like it.

Sure, of course. I’m just sayin’ for myself- I have a few battles I can fight effectively at any given time. And my goal in fighting these battles is to get what I want- and not to make a point. What I’m wearing while I’m doing the fighting shouldn’t matter either way…. you know… in my idealized utopia.

In real life this is a whole lot more complicated.

But I feel like it’s all the same: I also have the same feeling about wanting to be heard and taken seriously, in the context of being heard DESPITE LOVING to care about my clothes, hair, handbag, etc.

So there are two sides to the coin–and each of us feels it for these different reasons. And everybody gets screwed no matter which way they feel. That’s why regardless of whether we do or do not love clothes and shoes and getting our hair colored, we’re still all in the same boat. I dunno if I contributed anything useful to this conversation, but that’s where I’m coming from.

And a second point- I may generally agree with some bloggers and not with others- but I always find it valuable and surprising that even in those blogs that I don’t agree with many times- there are plenty of opportunities to find important points and make me think differently about a particular issue. I find this enormously valuable.

This is one of the things I appreciate most about the blogosphere – there are so many voices and opinions that those of us coming up in the science world can look to to help us find the path that will work for us.

Really sad. And hey- DrMrA is as domestically gifted as I could ever be, and is an unbelievably great parent. I would never, ever disrespect his abilities in this regard. Slightly off topic- but I have male colleagues who have been told by their colleagues that they were ‘too family oriented’… in situations relating to promotion (or lack thereof)… so being open about one’s family life can sometimes hurt you regardless of your gender.