Well, my soccermom-dom has reached a critical point. Most of the members of my older daughter’s soccer team, including the coach, are going to go competitive next season (i.e. no longer ‘recreational’ now ‘club’). This transition involves try-outs, and if she makes the team there will be lots of traveling to games out of town, two tournaments per semester, and a much longer soccer season. The traveling will involve at least 3 hours of driving for 1/2 of the season’s games, in addition to two practices per week and the regular schedule of home games that we currently have.
I am honestly conflicted about whether or not we should let her play up to club soccer. This will be a very difficult schedule for me and my enlightened also-academic-scientist-spouse (hereafter referred to as DrMrA) to add on top of our two academic careers and the other scheduled lessons and events for the children. I mourn the ever more elusive thought of spending Saturday morning with the whole family in PJs… and the idea of free time with the children without a schedule or something we are constantly late for. On the other hand, my daughter has really enjoyed playing rec soccer and after several years has become quite attached to her team. I guess I’m reluctant to make her give that up… because of MY JOB…- but I understand the kind of commitment her parents are making to traveling and being away from our consuming academic positions, both of which require some care right now in the papers-n- grants sense.
Now I know you are asking- WHERE did that come from… last I knew we were having a perfectly logical conversation about the academic job search…and now this!!
I had planned to talk about work-life balance and all that. So here it is plain and simple- this sometimes hits home hard. Things were easier when the children were small and taking care of bodily functions was and giving out hugs and kisses freely were all that was required. Now that they need a guide for life (and a chauffeur) things are more tricky than ever… and I naively thought it would get EASIER as they got older!